Varun is 2yr 9 months old and for milk he is still on bottle. We decided to go cold turkey beginning today. It is going okay. He needs a bottle to fall asleep…so nap and night time sleep routines have become increasingly longer. will keep you posted on the progress.
Presenting our art and play space- tada!!!
Earlier in June we decided to dis-enroll Varun from school and have him stay home with a nanny or us/grand parents. In preparation for that we started modifying our home environment. We have been wanting to design a dedicated play space for the little one since Dec 2012 and we finally did it! We have been enjoying this space for about 5 months now and slowly making more additions.
Our house came with a huge/long formal dining living room that we hardly ever used. It used to be a junk yard of sorts. Some time last year we emptied and threw away most of the stuff. After some research we finally did some planning and created the space for him. He loves it! We love it and it is the most favorite place in our home for me right now.
In here you see about 1/2 of the room. That is the main entrance to our home. So this is the first thing any guests see as soon as they enter
The pic below is what you see from the main entrance. That easel is from Ikea and so is the play kitchen.
This is the south facing wall. Yes! Lot of sun light streaming though those windows.
A close-up view of our play kitchen below:
Below is another space for stacking/sorting kind of work. These benches double up as storage for putting away larger toys.
I made this felt board for him and this is our story telling corner.
I also put up his art for display in one of the corners (this is the south east corner of the room).
Towards the west wall of the home we have a large-ish indoor slide and on particularly rainy days this slide provides a lot of much needed physical activity. The photo wall you see there has some highlights since his birth.
another view of the room
Final notes: We bought almost all of this from Ikea. We loved the soft edges, the colors and the various options. All the furniture you see here cost us about $1300. If you would like to know more about the individual pieces leave a comment.
I hope you enjoyed touring our space!
I want to do a mid-month “summary” post about the little guy. I realized that my first SOTC (State of the child) post was on Oct 16th. Let me see if I can do this every month. Now that I said that, I am sure I won’t be posting any more.
We had only 1 ER/Urgent Care Trip since our last post. That was a little traumatic because one late night suddenly he got these hives for no apparent reason – we hadn’t fed him anything foreign and everything around him was freshly washed and clean. He was given Benadryl and all was fine.
I took a day off after his ER Trip and we made the most of our day off by visiting a pumpkin farm. This was his first time in a farm and his excitement knew no bounds. Although it didn’t start out that well for us. The farm had this giant balloon thingy and he was scared but the sweet people at the farm turned it off on our request and I couldn’t thank them enough for that. Animals were petted, hay rides were taken, water was pumped via a hand pump and all in all it was a fun day!
Then came Halloween. Halloween was fun! Because of the ER Trip I was little stressed out and couldn’t figure any costume out. He is obsessed with PBS’ Daniel Tiger series and I decided last minute I could put something together (huge props to the neighborhood Dollar Store). Last minute plans, sometimes, are the best! So it was that I assembled a costume at about 4pm on Oct 31. He loved being Daniel Tiger (in fact the next 2 days he insisted on wearing his tail so we had to pin it to his jammies ). He still does not get trick or treat so even though we participated in Halloween festivities not a single piece of candy (with his food allergies, I can’t deal with trick/treat candies…so I just never told him about it and he is ok not knowing. so far..) was consumed. Let me see how long I can push this
And, then it was Diwali time. Friends, family, cousins…way too much fun was had. He also handled a sparkler for the first time. He loved handling the sparklers and was very careful. In fact on the day of Diwali we had 5 kids with their sparklers- 4 of them were 2 yo and 1 almost 4.5yrs. So yeah too many little people but happy to report that no accidents occurred.
He is bonding with his maternal grand mom very well…and it is almost time for her to go back home to India. He picked up even more Telugu these past few weeks. Some of his phrases:
“jarugu koncham jarugu” (move, just a little, move)
“malli malli tirugutundi” (it is rotating again and again)
“lechara? baaga padukunnaara” (did you wake up? did you sleep well)
“ayyo, rama chandra” ( Telugu version of “Oh, dear God!”)
Of course he knows most of his verbs – thinnara (have you eaten), padipotav (fall down), parigettaku (run/don’t run), katteseyyi (shut it off), ra (come), vellu (go), paadayipoyindi (it’s broken), raatam la (it is not coming). vasthunda? (is it coming), vachinda (did he/she come = he uses the same for both genders). I think his magnum opus is mastering this little rhyme (he knows many other Telugu rhymes as well, but this one was taught by a thatha in India)
“okati okati rendu, thiyyani mamidi pandu,
rendu rendu nalugu, tene vanti telugu
mudu mudu gaaru (aaru), musalayya gaaru
nalugu nalugu henimidi (enimidi), meka pilla chinnadi
ayidu ayidu padee (padi), aa pedda car maadi”
He is getting an understanding of tense and gender but I doubt he will fully master that. I have a feeling that when my mom leaves and we get a nanny to care for him, his Telugu won’t be that good any more I will be lucky if he still speaks any Telugu.
I don’t want to jinx this but we can go through most days with just about 1 meltdown only and even when there is a meltdown there seems to be a reason always – hunger. However, there are a LOT of arguments/negotiations all the time and at the moment I don’t have a good way of handling this except trying to gather all the patience I can. So hard!
He learnt to cut some soft veggies with a dinner knife and is ever so careful about it. We are also thinking of introducing him to scissors because he shows a lot of interest practicing with a toy version. And one more thing, he knows to break eggs into the bowl now! There is some spillage but that’s not a big deal.
On gross motor skills, we got him a balance bike sometime last month and he was initially very hesitant to even touch it. Now he cruises throughout the home without accidents and loves riding it to his “office”. May be it is time of some wheels, I think
Imaginative play is reaching an all time high entertainment quotient. For example, this month -at any given point of time there are multiple dinosaurs chasing us and we scuttle together in our hiding place. There are red dinosaurs, blue, green…you name it. Recently though, we befriended one and I will report on our friendship in the next post.
It has been a while since I blogged here. I feel sorry about not being able to chronicle our lives better. So this is going to be sort of a recap post (long one too).
Let me first tell the not-so-good stuff. In June 2013 my son had his very first episode of breathing distress. It is every bit as horrendous as it sounds. This was our first time and we had no clue how to handle it. On top of that we were not in Seattle at the time. A simple cold caused his lungs to inflame badly thus restricting oxygen intake. The doctors term this as “reactive airways disease” and generally don’t have a clue as to why it occurs. They only do incident management during a breathlessness episode by administering steroids. We were on oxygen therapy and steroids for about 24 hours before being discharged. Since then my son had 3 more episodes (as of this writing) and don’t know how many more. Because of this we decided to keep my son at home. We are trying a variety of arrangements (both the husband and I work) taking care of him. Currently my mom is visiting us but she leaves in another month so we will go back to our creative, whacky child care arrangements.
July 2013 – this month was all about getting him settled at home. We converted our formal dining/living room space into his play area and that was super fun.
Aug 2013 – We went to India and Varun had a blast! It was bitter-sweet for us because he fell sick twice both of which required hospitalization (reactive airways the first time and viral fever the second time).
Sep 2013 – Back from India and having fun with grandmom at home. More sickness.
Oct 2013 – Celebrating Indian festivals Navrathri with his aunt and uncle in Kansas. Again too much fun was had. Some more sickness.
It is just soo much fun to be around him these days. It is equally frustrating because I feel like I am running around an energizer bunny that is severely opinionated and resolute about EVERY LITTLE THING! Oh my god, this thing called “independence”. That and self reliance. Talking about self reliance…he has become very adept at making pancakes. He must stir all the ingredients – buckwheat flour + aalu oil (olive oil) + 2 spoons suggu ( 2 spoons sugar) + meek (milk) and pankeeek (almond flour). and we have to mik mik mik (mix, mix, mix). If I even touch the edge of the mat he is sitting on while he is stirring there will be mega meltdown.
I see that he is becoming very understanding… as in I can actually reason with him sometimes. His language and expressive skills are increasing and he always blows my mind with his keen memory. What is more fun is that he is picking up a lot of Telugu (my mother tongue) and it is so much fun. You know this age where everything they talk is cute and funny…that! So entertaining.
He picks his own outfits and he critiques mine as well. Just yesterday I wore a traditional Indian outfit and wore a black cardigan on top. He looked at me and asked me to take off the cardigan and then proceeded to give me a compliment that I looked good (“bavundi” = looks good)! I was speechless. Actually I realize now that at least once a day he leaves me speechless.
His imaginative play is becoming a little more sophisticated these days. He enacts things and tells stories to his toys and it is just such a delight to watch his imagination run wild. He is huge helper (if you can call that) in kitchen. He measures out rice, pasta, water, flour and other ingredients. But some days I just can’t deal with the mess and don’t let him help me. Oh well! And oh, ever since we stopped sending him to the daycare, he does not sleep before 11pm.
As messy as it is, as tiresome as it is..I still think I love the two’s!
I was cleaning out some shelves in our kitchen today and there they were. Several million sippy cups in multiple designs, brands, colors. Ok, not several million but close. It all started about 12 months ago. I was determined to find the right sippy cup for my son and so it began. We tried everything (almost) under the sun. I see now, that we went through about 13 different styles and not one of them worked. And this is where I threw in the towel, because V became more comfortable just drinking directly from a cup and/or straw.
But you all must agree that this is quite the visual!
PS: After publishing this post I found 2 more varieties in another closet. Sheesh!
We have come to a point where we need to figure out what kind of discipline we want to embrace with our son. We want him to be assertive, independent and free-spirited but sometimes it takes a toll. Like the time when we were in the airport security line and he insisted to push the stroller. He cried for 2 hours before falling asleep out of pure exhaustion. There was nothing we could do to stop the anger/frustration he was experiencing.
I read John Gottman’s book about raising emotionally intelligent child and I was applying some of the techniques with him but that did not help. Until now we were more of the distract and redirect type parents but that approach, I feel, is not working. We are against time-outs and also we don’t want to say too much “no”.
So what is your discipline style?